Being a victim -Possible Signs

At school

Children or young people who are being bullied may display one or (usually) several of the following signs:

Primary signs

** are (repeatedly) teased in a nasty way, called names (may also have a derogatory nickname), taunted, belittled, ridiculed, intimidated, degraded, threatened, given orders, dominated, subdued

** are made fun of and laughed at in a derisive and unfriendly way

** get picked on, pushed around, shoved, punched, hit, kicked (and are not able to defend themselves adequately)

**are involved in “quarrels” or” fights” in which they are fairly defenseless and from which they try to withdraw (maybe crying)

** have their books, money, or other belongings taken, damaged or scattered around

** have bruises, injuries, cuts, scratches, or torn clothing that cannot be given a natural explanation (and have some of the general characteristics listed below)

  Secondary signs

* are (often) alone and excluded from the peer group during breaks and lunch time. Do not seem to have a single good friend in the class.

are chosen among the last in term games

* try to stay close to the teacher or other adults during breaks

have difficulty speaking up in class and give an anxious and insecure impression

appear distressed, unhappy, depressed, and tearful

show sudden or gradual deterioration of school work

  1. At home

Primary signs

** come home from school with torn or disordered clothing, with damaged books

** have bruises, injuries, cuts, scratches, or torn clothing that cannot be given a natural explanation

Secondary signs

* do not bring classmates or other peers home after school and seldom spend time in the homes or playgrounds of classmates

may not have a single good friend to share free time with (play, shopping, sports and musical events, chatting on the phone, etc.)

are seldom or never invited for parties and may not be interested in arranging parties themselves (because they expect nobody wants to come)

appear afraid or reluctant to go school in the morning, have poor appetite, repeated headaches, or stomach pains (particularly in the morning)

* choose an “illogical” route for going to and from school

have restless sleep with bad dreams, may cry in their sleep

* lose interest in school work and get lower grades

* appear unhappy, sad, depressed, or show unexpected mood shifts with irritability and sudden outbursts of temper

* request or steal extra money from family (to accommodate bullies)